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50 Gentlemanly Tips To Remember On A Date


127Gentility is neither in birth, wealth, or fashion, but in the mind. A high sense of honor, a determination never to take a mean advantage of another, adherence to truth, delicacy and politeness…are the essential characteristics of a gentleman. Cecil B. Hartley

No man is born a gentleman, so how can he remember gentlemanly tips on a date? Politeness, manners, chivalry, respect and honor are taught. You can learn these principles through your family, experience, or you can read about them.

Have an upcoming date? Here are some tips to keep in mind. Been dating awhile? Its never too late to start.

50 Gentlemanly Tips To Remember On A Date

  1. Make plans with her a few days in advance
  2. Get reservations or tickets beforehand
  3. Be punctual
  4. If meeting her at the venue, get up and greet her
  5. If picking her up, open the door for her
  6. Offer to carry her bags
  7. Its ok to kiss her on the cheek when greeting her
  8. Help her take her jacket off
  9. Give her the best seat
  10. Pull out her chair
  11. Turn off your cell phone
  12. Maintain good (not creepy) eye contact
  13. Escort her when walking
  14. Offer your jacket if its cold
  15. Walk beside her closest to the street
  16. Be a good listener
  17. Dont interrupt
  18. Be humble
  19. Dont gossip
  20. She doesnt need your advice unless she asks for it
  21. Wait to sit until shes seated
  22. Inside, escort her on your left arm
  23. When leaving a room, walk through the door first
  24. Dont overdrink
  25. Use that napkin. Put it in your lap
  26. Dont talk with food in your mouth
  27. If its raining, offer her your umbrella
  28. Pay for dinner
  29. Dont make her wait. Call her first
  30. Prioritize returning her calls or texts
  31. Get her home at a decent time
  32. Dont overstay your welcome
  33. Be polite to the waiter/waitress
  34. Compliment her
  35. Offer your hand when she exits the car
  36. Dress appropriate to the date
  37. Take a shower fellow hipster (shampoo too)
  38. Take off your hat indoors
  39. If she drops something, be the first to pick it up
  40. Exhibit self-control
  41. Dont cuss
  42. Apologize if its your fault
  43. Never leave her alone outside
  44. Dont smoke unless she does too
  45. Bring flowers, not carnations
  46. Be genuine
  47. Dont walk too fast if shes in heels
  48. Dont be sexist
  49. Dont cut in line
  50. Dont stare at other women

Coming from Missouri, I was raised with Midwestern values, but it wasnt until I began dating a Southern girl that I discovered more specific ettiquette (mostly from her mom). Curious, I read Cecil B. Hartleys book, The Gentlemans Book of Etiquette.

You might not be dating a Southern girl, so gauge what your girl values.

And dont be too legalistic about fulfilling every one. As Cecil also wrote, To make your politeness part of yourself, inseparable from every action, is the height of gentlemanly elegance and finish of manner.

This article was originally published in Good Guy Swag.